Looking for Mr. Right? You're Missing the Point, Missy

I am astonished by the many reactions and different viewpoints, which is obviously very good, but can be damaging as well as some fluant with the wrath of God, for saying things that can harm more than repair or guide in the correct direction.
I always say "do not lean on your own understanding, but trust in God and He will guide you in your ways".
We cannot all be teachers, but good advice is welcome, if it is meant for up-building!
I have been married for 33 years, and we have all started off as single, and hopefully enjoyed our life to the full!
What am I saying then; God has His purpose worked out in all of our lives and if we appraoch Him with what is 'troubling" us then we are sure to receive the correct answer to our future. Our future has already been worked out by Him and He is patiently standing by, until we "really" start realising that we need to humble ourselves and lay our worries at His feet. Only then will we find fulfillment and receive our reward!

*Yawn*, another terrible article with a half-witted attempt to address the likes of single Christians. Cynical, unimaginitive and lacking substance, this article is like every other article/book I've read that says, "Oh, stop looking. Be happy with yourself. That's how you'll find love." Yeah, right. Mr. Shore, tell me: would that be your advice if I were looking for a new career? To buy a home? Just be happy where I'm living now and boom! I'll open the classifieds and find the perfect house staring at me from the page? I doubt it. So I ask why, oh why, do people take the same lame, lackluster approach to eliminating singlehood? I feel sad for someone who would take your advice, or read this article with any level of seriousness. I feel sad that you were allowed to post this, slamming people for honestly saying, "Okay, I want someone in my life; I want to marry". Finally, I feel sad that you believe you helped someone by penning this nonsense.

- DC, Annoyed author

Mamade - thanks for your response. It is very frustrating to read articles by people who don't have a clue as to what it is to be single as an adult. Usually it is some sort of condemning article about how we are wrong for having a normal human need to have someone in our lives.

Have you ever thought of writing something for single adults? We need a lot more articles from people who can really relate because they've been there. Just putting it out there ...

I meant "Missy" only as a play on the word "Missing." Promise.

I stopped reading at "Missy," since I'm developing a real skill at ignoring condescending people.

To Blessbeloved
It is difficult for most who married young (and have never experienced true singleness to understand the lives and challenges of single people so I would agree that there is probably a lot of guessing going on as far as how single adults should conduct their personal affairs. I can relate because although I am now married, I did not get married until age 41 so most of my adult life has been lived as a single adult. This is one reason my husband and I have been so effective with the church singles group we lead. I can relate to the never married and my husband who is a former divorcee can relate to another aspect of singleness. As one who has also been on the receiving end of well meaning but confusing advice I say, follow your heart and what God is telling you in your heart to do. There is hope. We have been happily married for almost 5 years now and have a 1 year old son.

Article was completly frustrating.... I have felt "darned if I do and darned if I don't" for many years.... by good well meaning people of God. I've been told that I seem so content in my 'singleness', people thought I didn't want to get married.... so I tried to be a little 'bolder', and while I have never 'chased' anyone... I have let my interest be known... I'm still single. I'm beginning to believe no one really knows.... and everybody is just guessing.

I totally disagree. God created marriage and it was HE who said it was not good for man to be alone. This woman gave no indication that she was abnormally needy or that she was looking for someone to rescue her. She was just a normal female with God given desires wondering why the men she was meeting were so commitment-phobic. This is probably immaturity and selfishness on the men's part and not necessarily her fault. Why are women always blamed when men do not want to commit? By John's account I would have been considered needy and yet God blessed me with a wonderful husband. We are all needy if we are honest. God places in us a healthy need for other humans and to deny that is not only unhealthy but unscriptural.

Excellent article. It's straight to the point! Single women should realize that they must have their own lives before committing to a serious relationship. We shouldn't be so desperate for a man to complete our lives. Instead, we should recognize that we are complete the way that God has made us to be.

I wish there were more articles like this out here for singles....