Mamade - thanks for your response. It is very frustrating to read articles by people who don't have a clue as to what it is to be single as an adult. Usually it is some sort of condemning article about how we are wrong for having a normal human need to have someone in our lives.

Have you ever thought of writing something for single adults? We need a lot more articles from people who can really relate because they've been there. Just putting it out there ...

I just saw Hancock and while I do agree that there were many places where the language was unacceptable (particularly the cursing by the kids), I understood the purpose of the main character using some profanity - particuarly because of how he saw himself. I think that there were some pieces of this film that were quite good actually. There were some themes about the vulnerability that is part of love (I'm not sure though if I agree with the message sent concerning this), a very good message about who is different types of heros - whether they have supernatural strength or a super-human faith in another person's goodness. There was also a good message about how we see ourselves and the erroneous ways in which we might view past events in our lives - and the impact that has on our current living situation. The theme of responsibility is also present as well. For me, the fact this this movie addressed these themes was admirable.

Great article. Thank you so much - there is a lot here to think and pray about!

rgod

Crosswalk Singles Editors,

Can you please give us more articles from people who have actually been single? There is a compassion and a depth of understanding that comes through when the author has been single - and different types of issues that are addressed. One author that I found to be helpful in the past was Dick Purnell, but there are many many others. Mrs. Ludy married at 18 (http://blog.ylcf.org/2006/02/eric-and-leslie-ludy.html) and thus, has never been single (unless she is divorced or widowed, but her writings don't seem to reflect that). To have someone who's been married for all of her adult life write about singleness is kind of like having someone who has never had children write about what it is to be a parent -- the right words, but no practical experience. Married people's take on singleness is often a some sort of lecture about being content or about how to "cope." Singleness is about so much more. Appreciate your consideration of this request!

rgod

Actually, I see a lot more mixing in non-denominational, charismatic churches. Whenever I visit a mixed church, it is usually non-denominational. Segregation seems to be the rule in mainline churches. (At least, this is what I've observed.) I don't know why this is - perhaps because they are older and have more old-fashioned ideas about race.

I don't think christians will initiate the change. No one really wants to touch this - it is one of our acceptable sins. There is a lot of truth to the stereotype of the bigotted christian. And this isn't limited to just one race either. On the flip side, not too many people want to worship somewhere where they are simply tolerated, left out, and not valued. Or where no one in leadership looks like them.

I think the only way that it will change on a widespread level will be when it becomes necessary to do so. For example, if we were ever to start to really experience persecution in the US and Canada - we'd see a big change.

Great article! Oprah has long been a proponent of New Age teaching (I remember her having shows with Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra and others as far back as '94 and '95). Believers need to go back to the foundation of the faith so that we can correctly determine what is true and what is false.

Tried to send this before, so I'll try again. I agree with those who think this article is unrealistic. It sounds like yet another "theory about being single and dating" that married people (particularly those who got hitched before they were 25) are so fond of writing. The main reason articles like these give me a headache is because there are christians who will look at this and take it to heart - then feel guilty because they've broken some sort of "rule." The second reason that I don't like articles like these are because very rarely do the people who write these things actually do them. They just make up a lot of stuff for other people to follow - now that they are married and don't have to worry about whether or not they kiss their spouse.

There are other good articles on this channel - and in the past there were a lot of really good ones that were realistic and helpful. But I found this one to be particularly odious.

While beautifully written and full of good advice, I think that this article was too simplistic. From what I gather, the author was married at 19 and (from what I understand - but I could be wrong) has no real conception of what it is to be adult, single, and christian. You can have a wonderful loving relationship with Jesus, serve, yet still be lonely and long for a mate. Jesus is everything, but being with him does not mean that you will not be lonely again. He is not the cure for loneliness (except our longing for God himself) although he stands with us as we struggle.

No offense to the author. Again, she made excellent points and wrote very eloquently. But in reality, sometimes forming that relationship with Jesus leaves you lonelier for human companionship than before - especially as you start move deeply into the Lord and people no longer understand where you are coming from. He fulfills us - but for most of us, there is still a longing for human love.

This was such an excellent article! There are so many articles that talk about waiting and being whole and working on yourself. We are always developing and growing, but there comes a time when you are healed enough to be ready for marriage. There are significantly fewer articles that talk about how a woman can be a Christian, yet be attractive to men. This is one of those articles; and I am glad to find it. What a blessing! Thank you!

rgod